How to Find Your Tribe
I am lucky enough to have friends that I see on a regular basis who I have known since high school (and some from before that). But even with those friendships, I still like meeting new people. If you thought making friends in middle school was hard, try doing it in your thirties. It's hard, y'all! Once you get your career established in your late twenties, most people have "netflix and chill" kinds of evenings and weekends. Or their kid's activities. In fact, Family Circle found that the most common excuses to finding lasting friendships are that you don't have time (40%), you lack the self confidence (17%), your living situation is holding you back (13%), you aren't looking for more friends (11%), or you have a history of unhealthy friendships (5%).
So how does someone who has a full time job and other responsibilities make those amazing friendships? Here's a few tips on just that:
- Follow your passions. If you're interested in something, chances are other people are too! Get out and explore those interests with others through networking events or meetup groups.
- Take a few risks. Get out of your comfort zone. Yes, it might be awkward going to happy hour with your coworkers after work, but you may surprise yourself and have fun!
- Get closer to those you barely know. Sometimes, your new best friend could be right under your nose. Remember that girl you enjoyed chatting with at your cousin's baby shower? Or how about your downstairs neighbor? Ask them to coffee and you may gain a new friend!